Deciding Whether To Stay Or Leave A Toxic Relationship

Your worth and value as a woman is incredibly important, and your personal security and emotional well-being should never be compromised. If you’re in a long-term relationship and start to notice a negative change in your boyfriend or husband, or the way he treats you, it’s important to take it very seriously. Keeping yourself safe at all times is the number one priority and maintaining that priority can often mean making some very emotionally and mentally difficult situations. Jenny Seale is a trauma recovery coach who can help you on your survivor’s journey, no matter where you are on your path. Learn more about recognizing early signs of a toxic relationship and emotional abuse and get in touch with Jenny if you need help.

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Warning Signs and Red Flags to Look Out For

Survivors of emotional abuse may notice a few red flags over the course of their relationship with their boyfriends or husbands. These signs of a toxic relationship, if recognized repeatedly, can compromise your safety as a woman and should not be ignored — even if they’re subtle. It’s possible for your abuser to show — whether it be emotionally, socially, or physically — signs of narcissistic abuse, including:

  • Making you feel as though your needs or interests don’t matter

  • Making you feel as though you’re not supported

  • Utilizing negative language during daily communication

  • Illustrating strong feelings of jealousy

  • Strongly asking to know where you are at all times and to control several aspects of your life

  • Heavily criticizing or controlling how you spend your money

  • Making you feel as if you are walking on eggshells

  • Actively separating you from your friends, family, or coworkers

If you’re unsure if any of these signs of a toxic relationship apply to you and your relationship, get the counsel you need with Jenny Seale.

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How To Ask For Help and Develop a Support System

If any of the narcissistic abuse or emotional abuse signs listed above describe your relationship with your significant other, know you have the ability to take action. While it may be difficult or embarrassing to do, asking for help and developing a support system is key to the trauma recovery process. Starting a conversation with a trusted friend or family member who has your best interests at heart and can help you take action is important to formulating a plan to leave. Trauma recovery coach Jenny Seale can also provide an outlet for communicating, developing a support system, and moving towards a better future.

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How To Go No-Contact

If you’ve started recognizing any signs of a toxic relationship, narcissistic abuse, or emotional abuse; and have started reaching out to trusted friends or loved ones for help; the next step is to go no-contact with your abuser. The method of going “no contact” is designed to prevent any more contact with your narcissistic partner, whether it be in-person or online. This method involves:

  • Not answering the person's phone calls or text messages

  • Blocking the person’s number from your phone

  • Blocking the person on social media

  • Avoiding going to places where the person frequents (to avoid meeting in-person)

  • Not meeting with the person face-to-face

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How To Leave Safely

Leaving a toxic relationship is a move that requires a large amount of courage, and the support system you’ve established can help make the process easier. Opening up to trusted friends or loved ones and getting help from a trauma recovery coach like Jenny Seale is a great place to start if you notice signs of a toxic relationship. Keep members of your support system close to you as you gather up belongings or other items from the abuser’s household and, if necessary, seek protection from law enforcement.

Recognizing signs of a toxic relationship, narcissistic abuse, or emotional abuse is considerably difficult, especially if you don’t have the right support. Jenny Seale specializes in helping survivors of abuse work through their trauma without any triggering, shaming, or retraumatization. It’s her mission as a certified International Association of Trauma Recovery Coaches (IAOTRC) member to help patients work towards a better future. Reach out today if you need help!

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